I normally don't comment about TV shows but I think it necessary to comment on culture and what I watched last night. My wife and I sat down and watched a show we have seen for the past several years called "Little People Big World". TLC announced just a couple of weeks ago there were marital issues which lead to a separation and I am certain it boost ratings last night. I was so frustrated I needed to promise to not speak till the end of the show. So let me tell you why I was so frustrated and why this was another blow to Marriage.
1) We are working on the marriage but doing nothing
I couldn't count how many times Matt and Amy Roloff talked about working out and trying to find a plan but they were doing nothing. For 6 weeks they lived in separate houses. From all indications neither one of them has spoken to a pastor, or counselor about what is going on. They have done Nothing and yet both claim to be working on it. If your marriage is in trouble ask for help, fight for your spouse not against her, but don't claim you are working when you are doing nothing
2) This was not a surprise
For the past several years it was clear there were issues. They seemed to be staying together for the kids and had what I will call the typical American child centered marriage. The only reason the marriage exists is for the children. The children run everything and life centers and circles them. When they leave there is nothing left. On top of that you had 2 individuals going their own way. This is not the biblical picture of the 2 becoming 1 flesh. The 2 stayed 2 and never merged. I also wonder how many people tried to point things out and help them and all the while they ignored the advice. Many saw this coming and if Matt and Amy didn't then they refused to listen to people.
3) They had a Wedding but did little work on the Marriage.
This became clear when the Roloff's went into the wedding business. They held big elaborate ceremonies on the farm with couples spending tens of thousands of dollars. This is another trap of many - too much investment in a ceremony and no investment in a marriage. The most important day of marriage is not the first day rather the last day. Are you faithful "till death do us part'"? We invest thousands on the first day but none into making it through a life.
Now after all the criticism we need to pray for Matt and Amy. As public as their story is a redemption would be a great story. And nothing is hopeless with Christ. A friend of mine said there are no bad marriages but there are difficult marriages. But with Christ what is broken can be restored and what a testimony that would be.
So if you are marriage - How is your marriage going? Are the 2 becoming 1? If you are in trouble - ask for help.
If you are considering marriage think about what you are planning for. Do you want a big ceremony or a marriage to last a lifetime?
We need a big restoration movement in marriage and with God's help it will be done.
Jesus Follower, Husband, Father, and Pastor and trying to keep those in the right order....