I believe one of the most destructive things we do with our words is to lie. Lies are the destroyer of relationships. Jesus tried to make sure his followers understood this. He told us Satan was “Father of all lies” and that lying was his language. He then goes on just 2 chapters later in the Gospel of John to tell us the “thief comes to steal and to kill and to destroy”. Who is the thief? Satan is the thief and one of his most destructive weapons is lying.
All of us have been guilty of lying and have been the victims of people lying to us. It is one of the most painful things which can happen in a relationship. Think about it for a moment. The last time your kids lied to you, remember that hurt. Or how about the time when your spouse lied to you? You were deeply hurt. Why? Because a relationship was damaged. I have talked to parents who have gotten to a point of not believing their kids. What an awful place to be.
My wife experienced this a couple of years ago and to watch the hurt experienced over lying was hard. She was lied to by a relative over a period of 6 months. Huge damage. I remember her telling me one night how she couldn’t believe they would do this to her. Lies are that damaging.
So what are we going to do? We have to choose to be truthful. We must understand as Jesus taught “the truth sets us free” and lies put us in prison. We must make an effort to understand how important the truth is. We also must make sure our kids understand it. The punishment should always be more severe for lying then had they come clean in the beginning. They must understand lying destroys relationships.
Solomon told his son “The Lord detests lying lips”. God hates lying. God hates when we destroy relationships.
So let’s make a new effort today to be truthful. Let’s make honesty our new policy and see the difference it can make. May we put lying lips behind us and press forward into the truth.
Jesus Follower, Husband, Father, and Pastor and trying to keep those in the right order....